Friday, February 17, 2012
Swimsuits, There's an app for that!
Now that Febraury has come and has started its way out, Sports Illustrated has circulated its way into homes and possibly in more ways than one. Yep, there's an app for that so you can have that with you wherever you go, for free, without anyone else knowing. I know there may be some parents that think that stuff is ok for their kids to look at, I mean its perfectly normal right? Sure, its normal for males to have a desire to look at that, but that doesnt make it a good idea. Even the secular news reports are stating that SI has pushed the envelope so much that any further would have to be considered pornography. It is a proven fact that as young men develop, their brain is wired to take pictures when aroused to a certain point. Those pictures become standard in their mind of how women should look and act. God designed for those pics to be taken on their wedding night so that they constantly have their new bride in their mind. When our children are exposed to images like that of SI and porn, those pictures are taken way to early and stored in their hard drive giving their future spouse no chance to add up to the standards that have been set. And this actually leads to a lack of sexual interest with your spouse which leads to divorce, affairs, and other sexual addictions. My suggestion? well, I'm glad you asked. Check the mail and throw the swimsuit edition out. Check their phones, their tablets, and their iPods. What's that you say? That's their private property? Hmmm... Your child is your personal property. Protect it!!
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
I don't remember praying for patience.
"I'm gonna go brush my teeth for a min".
"It's 4 in the afternoon".
"I know".
"She's annoying you isn't she".
That is a conversation that has happened in our home lately. Of course that happens. She's 2. When they repeat words time after time or just grunt instead of using words or running around the store hiding inside the clothes rack or when they turn 12 and suddenly know more than you do. It happens. Kids can be annoying at times. And it's going to happen at almost every stage they are in. It's important to remind yourself of that often. Anybody that you spend enough time with can start to rub you the wrong way. But it is not healthy to feel like you are "stuck" with your children. As parents we need to mentally prepare for these situations ahead of time so that instead of pulling our hair out, we can take a breath and deal with the situation appropriately. Let's look at three steps that help us handle these situations.
1. Think of those things that annoy you the most. Actually sit down and write out the actions that bother you the most so you can keep track of them. You can even make a note when it happens. You might have a new winner the next time you see them.
2. Ask yourself why that bothers you so much. (inwardly or outwardly depends on the age of your child. It might be one of their goals to make you talk to yourself) What is it about that action that bothers you so much? Is it something that could be comical and give the two of you something to laugh about? Is it something that is inappropriate? This is a good time to perform a self evaluation on your attitude. The problem may be within yourself.
3. Determine who needs to be disciplined, you or your child. If you've determined that the action is a problem then deal with your child appropriately. If they are of age, you could have a conversation with them to make them aware of their actions bothering you and possibly others. Maybe even to the point of embarrassing themselves. If your child is still too young to have that conversation with, make sure you handle the situation each time it happens. Be consistent with your discipline to ensure the best results. However, if you realized that your reaction is the problem, learn to change your attitude towards those actions. Learn to laugh at your child and yourself. Put your child first and realize that the problem may have been that you were placing yourself before your child.
I learned, as a parent of a two year old, that most times I was getting annoyed, I was placing myself before my child. Those things she was doing that annoyed me were because I was busy playing angry birds or cleaning up the house instead of getting down on the floor and playing with her.
What are ways that you can prioritize your life so that your children are number one?
"It's 4 in the afternoon".
"I know".
"She's annoying you isn't she".
That is a conversation that has happened in our home lately. Of course that happens. She's 2. When they repeat words time after time or just grunt instead of using words or running around the store hiding inside the clothes rack or when they turn 12 and suddenly know more than you do. It happens. Kids can be annoying at times. And it's going to happen at almost every stage they are in. It's important to remind yourself of that often. Anybody that you spend enough time with can start to rub you the wrong way. But it is not healthy to feel like you are "stuck" with your children. As parents we need to mentally prepare for these situations ahead of time so that instead of pulling our hair out, we can take a breath and deal with the situation appropriately. Let's look at three steps that help us handle these situations.
1. Think of those things that annoy you the most. Actually sit down and write out the actions that bother you the most so you can keep track of them. You can even make a note when it happens. You might have a new winner the next time you see them.
2. Ask yourself why that bothers you so much. (inwardly or outwardly depends on the age of your child. It might be one of their goals to make you talk to yourself) What is it about that action that bothers you so much? Is it something that could be comical and give the two of you something to laugh about? Is it something that is inappropriate? This is a good time to perform a self evaluation on your attitude. The problem may be within yourself.
3. Determine who needs to be disciplined, you or your child. If you've determined that the action is a problem then deal with your child appropriately. If they are of age, you could have a conversation with them to make them aware of their actions bothering you and possibly others. Maybe even to the point of embarrassing themselves. If your child is still too young to have that conversation with, make sure you handle the situation each time it happens. Be consistent with your discipline to ensure the best results. However, if you realized that your reaction is the problem, learn to change your attitude towards those actions. Learn to laugh at your child and yourself. Put your child first and realize that the problem may have been that you were placing yourself before your child.
I learned, as a parent of a two year old, that most times I was getting annoyed, I was placing myself before my child. Those things she was doing that annoyed me were because I was busy playing angry birds or cleaning up the house instead of getting down on the floor and playing with her.
What are ways that you can prioritize your life so that your children are number one?
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